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Transforming Rejection: The Lessons of the Swan


“GEORGIA O’KEEFFE: I have been very fortunate, much more fortunate than most people. I don’t–for instance, I can imagine myself being a much better painter and nobody paying attention to me at all, but it happens that the things that I’ve been doing have been in touch with my time so that people have liked it.” From a PBS interview with Georgia O’keefe in August, 31 1997. (

“Most writers MUST have a day job. Before King hit it big he lived in a trailer, wrote in the water heater closet, and taught school. He was not a successful writer and he was ready to give it all up when lightning struck.
I’m still waiting for that to happen to me. We all are.” –anonymous.

I’ve been swinging a dream like a hammer for years. I create. That’s what I do. I write. I photograph. I paint. I’m trained to do so. I hope one day my creations will go into the world and bring back a better job, one with tenure, more laptop time in a mountain cabin, a book tour. I crave freedom, expansion, abundance, and more life in my living, and of course, more time to write. I want all of this, plus I want my creations, especially my writing, to be of twin service: entertainment and transformation. I want my audience to enjoy what they’re reading, and be challenged within their own awareness.

Who has time to digest words anymore?

To build an audience is nearly impossible in this day of closing bookstores and #hashtag blogs. For struggling artists like me, this karma of being the best-kept secret may never change no matter how gifted, how many years devoted to training, or how close I am to grasping the brass ring of the BIG TIME. Not being seen is a painful experience—not just for an artist—but also for all living things. In part, art relies on the energetic reciprocity of the other–the viewer, the listener, and the sensor. Only through this relationship is the life force breathed into the creative process and inspiration’s divine spark communicated into the world. Without an audience, creations die on the vine in the form of yellowed manuscripts, warehoused paintings, corrupted floppy disks, and if one is almost famous, museum basement archives.

With each rejection, the motivation to continue to work becomes more challenging. Rejection isn’t even rejection anymore—it’s a type of ghost-like invisibility. There was a time when the solicited would respond with a letter, hand written if they were very sorry for not accepting. Nowadays, there’s often no letter, rather, a cyber-space purgatory, the pit of nothingness where ones work goes but never returns. I’ve witnessed the fallout of talented comrades along the way who were unable to endure this virtual Bermuda’s Triangle. This slow death of the artist is often not due to a lack of effort or talent. It’s lack of reciprocity. Without an audience, art holds little meaning, and without art culture lacks an alchemical change agent. Yes, we can get full on fast food and pop music, but we all know that this lack of substance makes us sick over time. For the artist, without reciprocity, one’s rice bowl is empty and such soul starvation is not worth the effort to create. As a culture, it’s easy to become numb, and passive. There’s no time to slow down and digest meaning that would demand too much attention–bring on the Happy Meal and the non-news, bring on the sound byte. The world speeds forward, and we are powerless to slow down to reflect on who we really are. How does the artist stay motivated against such obstacles?

I believe that as an artist, I’ve had to learn to dissolve identity into the process of creation itself, which includes metaphorically dying. Not because there are any rewards to this process, but because the world needs people to remember how this is done. All of us, whether an artist or not, must let go of the passions we once held. Sometimes, this means letting go of the Artist’s identity. Done well, a person goes on to become something else, and create in a different way. Done poorly, the unused gift becomes a poison. For me, transmutation lies within these questions: How does one transform pain into creativity? How does one let go of the dream without letting go of the creative fire? How does one stay motivated when there’re very few tangible, external rewards?

I believe pain can be alchemically transformed. To do this, one must choose a path(s)—any path and practice. The more one can let go of who they think they are the more one accepts transcendent and transitory nature of being. Thus, if an artist is to continue working without rice in their bowl, they must discover a way to become the bowl itself. Like the Buddhist and Navajo priests who construct the most exquisite sand mandalas only to be released as a prayer to the water and wind. Like the songbird that bursts into song because it is the song. There can be no separation from Creative Mind, and no attachment to outcome. Doing so, the desolate mile is filled with joy. There’s no holding, only letting go. That alone must be enough. This is by no means easy—it’s called ‘practice’ for a reason, and for most of my life I’ve resisted such wisdom teachings because of my dogged attachment to progress and outcome, which has created more psychological distress. Through my practice of radical self-acceptance, I’m learning rejection’s transformational nature—the courage to let go and begin again. If I am unable to let go, or change the nature of my suffering, then any possibility of new creativity, new growth, is blocked.

The following anecdote in Lesson of the Swan is an example of I how I used my spirituality in this ‘alchemical’ transformational process. I’ve sought mystical experiences, and one path that lends itself to such exploration is Shamanic Dream Journeys. In a Shamanic Dream Journey, the intensive drumbeat drives the conscious mind into an altered state. It’s very much learning the art of lucid dreaming, and tapping into the archetypal language of the natural world. I’ve often brought a question, or intention, to the ceremony and allowed the dream to inform meaning. On this night, I brought forth my question: How do I transform rejection? A black swan emerged from the dream journey, angry at first, but quickly morphed into a ballerina. She danced. Theater seats were empty. She danced anyway. Little by little, attracted to her dance, the dark theatre filled. I was reminded to dance my dance, and make it not my business who watches.

In the following days, several more artistic expressions emerged; including another poem in a series about Georgia O’Keeffe called the Feast For the Dead. Once again, I experienced the joy of reconnecting to my deeper, authentic self. My pain became the raw material for new creativity, something extraordinary. By learning to accept life for what it is, and practicing radical self-acceptance, the distortions in my heart and mind dissolved—at least for that moment. Once again my bowl filled with spiritual food and my spirit was satisfied.


The Lesson of The Swan.

Jim held the Abalone shell, and fanned the sage with an adorned Eagle feather, a gift from pueblo elders. No Anglo person I’d known had ever been invited into the ancient Kiva ceremonies—Jim was the exception and it was a great honor. This Midwesterner had become a Shaman over the years, and one of the truest healers I’ve ever encountered over the two decades I’ve been a seeker. Tonight, he had an assortment of offerings for the spirits: corn meal, tobacco leaves, Palo Santo (a sacred, aromatic wood), sweet grass, and sage.

Smoke billowed, draped the windows and doors, dissipated, and cleansed the room as Jim systematically smudged the entry points. His silent prayers prepared the way for spirit by creating intention and welcoming. He’d traveled across the San Luis Valley to hold a Shamanic Drum ceremony at our home in Alamosa, a Wild West outpost, where a few friends and co-workers sat on floor pillows. He was on his way to Boulder where another group waited to be led in ceremony.

Many of the participants had never done a Shamanic Journey. “Creative visualization—like dreaming. A mediation of sorts,” I’d said.

“Are there going to be drugs?”

“No,” I sighed, as this is usually the first question asked in regards to indigenous ceremonies. It’s not that many people don’t find higher consciousness through plant medicines, and receive a great healing benefit, but I’ve always felt that mind-altering substances promote a spiritual by-pass. Personally, I want to be able to ingrate phenomenon and in order to do that, I need a clear mind.

No one spoke as Jim continued to prepare the room, but I could feel the curiosity and anticipation as he moved about with ease and purpose. He looked like a Shaman with his life-map lines on his weathered face, hair pulled back, and piercing eyes accustomed to peering into the veil; once a civilized man on gravy-train road like most of us who dissolve into numbness between the hours of 8 and 6. He’d opened his heart despite untold pain and found a return to his indigenous nature through the process of initiations and dying to the self. The room smelled like healing, and my body calmed. My spirit jumped, happy, ready. Working in the mental health industry, there’s not a lot of time to practice what I coach—make time for self-care, make time for my spirit. I needed to clear the suffering that I’d witnessed over the past several months; some of that suffering was my own.

While on a trip to Ghost Ranch, I’d written a divinely inspired poem. I’d felt Georgia O’Keeffe’s energy move through me and craft a poem beyond my ordinary ability. I seldom enter writing contests because I’ve experienced failure too many times. But I’d recognized the judge’s name, a person, who– like me–had an affinity for the Southwest desert, an understanding for mysticism, and an appreciation for Georgia O’Keeffe. This time, my work had a chance. Out of 300 hundred anonymous entries, there was one winner, and six runners-up. I discovered this on the official website long after a rejection letter should have arrived. That’d been my best shot in a long time to have such a gift received by a larger audience. Success was beyond my effort, and I was hurt. The bitter fruit of anger hurt even worse, and I had to release the internal tantrum, or be consumed.

So I sat on the floor with my little girl feelings, and challenged spirit to show me the way to transform this rebellion. Meanwhile, Jim blessed the drum, and lovinglyrubbed it alive with his palm. He then instructed us to stand, and gather in a circle. He smudged each of us, and used the feather to slice open the veil. He then tipped wing-point to each of our hearts. “Welcome.”

I was the last to receive the feather blessing and so had the honor of blessing and welcoming Jim. I accepted the shell and the eagle feather, and with some awkwardness, fanned the sage from his feet to his head. I used the feather to slice through the air, imitating his sweeping motion. “Welcome, Jim,” I smiled as I gently touched the feather to his heart. He thanked me, and we then returned to our places on the floor, while he sat on our blood-red chair, ceremonial drum between his feet, and instructed us on shamanic journeys.

“It’s good to set an intention,” he deliberately spoke. His voice was soft and clear, which I’ve always found reassuring. “Sometimes, you can simply ask to meet your power animal. That animal spirit serves as your guide—like a guardian angel. Visualize a place in nature that feels safe, comfortable–woods, river, or an ocean. Take time to explore. A place may appear–an opening under a rock, under the water, a knot in a tree. Investigate, get curious. More often than not this will be your way into the underworld, the spirit world. There, you might be greeted by your power animal. Don’t be startled. Sometimes they rush up to you because they’re excited that you’re paying attention. You may only see an eye, or part of a feather. Don’t be startled. Interact. You can ask, are you my power animal? They will tell you. And if you don’t see anything, that’s all right too. The drum is a healing. Trust, you will receive what you need.”

We took one more moment to go to the bathroom, get a drink of water, before settling onto our blankets we’d stretched across the floor. Jim struck the first steady beat. The beat became the voice. The voice sang me into a trance. At first my mind resisted. I was aware I was lying on the floor. I was aware my chest vibrated. I was aware I was breathing. I was aware of my mind. I became aware of shadows–the animals had arrived, and I drifted into a lucid dream.

First to emerge from the darkness was my power animal, rabbit. In my first journey, rabbit appeared to me as a giant Hare, ears stretched into the star-lit cosmos like antennae. Rabbit: the mystical, sensitive being that appears and disappears into the legends of Celtic fog. Rabbit: affirmation that I’m on my path, and my teacher of how to be sensitive and survive this planet. Rabbit morphed into a raven and the raven flew with me only to become a wolf that ate me. I became the wolf and knew the power of intense focus. Each animal morphed into another, each carrying a symbolic message. I can’t tell you how long I traveled between space and time. I was transported through the dark into the light and back to the dark. From the shadow emerged sparkles on a lake. They twinkled like stars, and from the stars emerged a black swan, blood-red beak, feathers like obsidian–a beautiful blue-blackness–a terrible and awe-inspiring creature as dark as the deepest night. The Swan was angry, and with a mighty beat of its wings, rose up and confronted me with a forceful honking like a scream. At first I didn’t understand, but as Jim instructed, I asked although I wasn’t aware of the question. Fluid knowing returned to me. This was my creative nature. It was angry. I was angry. Nature was angry. How often has the animal world been discarded? I thought about the black swan shot on my parents’ lake. The elderly man with the gun said he was trying to shoot squirrels. Nothing is sacred, not even the sacred.

How to continue to create when no one cares about the creation? How do I transform this pain?

The angry swan stopped honking and changed into a ballerina. The lake dissolved into a darkened stage with this solitary dancer elegantly balanced and spinning on pointed toe. Dressed in black tulle, I recognized her to be the swan. She was breathtaking as she spun and leapt with sheer joy. I was in the shadows, the invisible observer, a shade, and saw row upon row of empty theater seats. She danced for no one, and as I watched, I knew she was too absorbed in her dance to care. I became aware of other ghostly shades as they drifted into the room. Quickly, the seats began to fill with the presence of ghosts. Suddenly, an audience filled the room, responding to the recognition of themselves twirling on stage. The ballerina single-mindedly became one with the divine. She was life itself. The ghosts had lost their ability to commune with God but had not lost their desire or need. Being free of identity, the ballerina and the ghosts could became ONE in the dance. They were both in the nature of God. This is the Lesson of the Swan.


Sacred Relationship

“The winds end when the snow caps of Mount Blanca melt.” This is a common saying in the San Luis Valley, especially in the spring when the thirty plus gusts blow grit across one’s teeth.

It was a windy day. Our small group set out with our friend, Thomas, and his son to meet an archeologist in Del Norte. Thomas, a paranormal anomaly investigator in the San Luis Valley, has spent several years searching sacred sites. He has been building a network of medicine wheels, and maintaining them through ceremony, keeping them spiritually activity as a means to keep the negative energy in check, and to restore balance to these ancient sacred sites.

As of late, there’s been a ghost problem. Thomas has gotten several requests in the past month to clear paranormal energy from people’s homes in a neighboring town. There have also been 21 sightings of a flying humanoid. For this reason, when asked to help me complete a Southwestern College project that teaches earth-based medicine, he suggested we build a wheel in the vicinity of these sightings.

We met up with the archeologist, a native of the area. Like Thomas, he knows the area’s history well. Our caravan headed towards BLM (Bureau of Land Management), which is as close to a John Ford immortalization of an untamed no-man’s-land that exists in this post strip mall age. Except for the long cuts of dirt in-roads, this territory is off-grid. Not a wire, nor a tower to be seen. No cell phone service here.

We followed the dust of our guides’ 4-wheel drives along a dirt road as faded as a wagon trail. After thirty minutes or so, we parked at the base of a rocky outcropping. In Southern Louisiana, from where I come, this would be a bona fide mountain. Immediately, we pulled on layered gear to protect us from the winds, and began our slow trek to the top. This is a high desert landscape of volcanic rock, chunks of chert, and sand. Very little grows here, but what does is tenacious: sage, pinion, juniper trees, barrel cactus, claret cup, and prickly pear. Springtime, the cacti are in full bloom, and there are bursts of color along the trek.

It was colder at the top, windier, too. With all my layers, I was in a moon suit, except gravity pulled on me. I trailed behind, labored breath. The others carefully made their way down from the crest onto a rocky ledge.

I was extra vigilant for rattlesnakes as I picked my way down the craggy corridor. Everyone had found a rock to sit on and look out over the amazing view. I found my spot and gazed at the butte formations, and the town dotted in the distance. It was spectacular. It was still cold, but we were somewhat protected from the wind. The archeologist pointed out the three Cairns he believed were Native American markers for an astronomical site. Two miles east, directly across from where we were literally “perched”, is a rock called Indian Head Rock. On that rock there is an auspicious V. He suspects that there’s a shadow cast during the winter solstice where we sit, and plans to return to further investigate his theory.

I was thinking, Indiana Jones, wondering what a real shadow cast would reveal when Thomas offered a feather blessing to the four directions. This was my cue to be mindful of all our relations, from all the people who came before me and all those who will come after. All spirits, and beings that make up the earth: Father-Mother God, earth and sky, and all the creatures in the soil. By offering this prayer, Thomas opened the space between the transpersonal and the mundane. Our intention was anchored to revere the land and bring in the light and honor the dark. The archeologist brought out his hand-painted drum and began a heartbeat. Thomas joined in. They rest of us sat quietly in prayer and/or chanted a Tibetan chant: Om Mani Podme Hum.

These sacred repetitions allowed my mind to let go of distractions and enter a trance. The inward journey is the sacred contract. Here, there are no daydreams of Indiana Jones. Here, I become more present to spirit by removing myself from the illusion of waking experience. We were in this altered state for a while. As was our intention, I imagined the troubled town filled with peace and light, asking that the karma that created the shadow be resolved. At some point, the drumming stopped. We sat in the silence. Somehow, it felt warmer. The world from this ledge looked brighter. I was in alignment with a powerful truth that there was a far greater source beyond self. It was from this alignment, I was ready to create the wheel.

Thomas had picked a spot on the crest just above where we’d prayed. He’d found orange moss, indicating a place of higher energy—the perfect place to put our wheel. We climbed back into the ripping wind. Thomas, unable to sage-smudge us, passed the gifts we would place in the wheel—medicine bundle, incense, red apples, and candy. We prayed, making these gifts a personal offering to the spirits. A rock and a bush not much hardier than a twig already marked the creator stone. From this center point, Thomas’ son found true north with a compass. This was marked with a stone, as were the other three directions, east, south, and west. From there, we gathered rocks setting them in a clockwise pattern.

Each of these directions carries symbolism. For example, north is the element of wind. Its color is white and its season is winter. It represents that seat of childhood and action. South is the element of water. Its color is red, and represents adolescence and passion. East is the element of fire. Its color is yellow, and represents elderhood. Finally, the west, its element is earth. Its color is black, sometimes dark blue. It represents death, healing and profound introspection.

According to Thomas the wheel is an honoring of the spirits. He told me:

We honor them to the east where the dawn of a new day is created. They will be painting the sunrise there.

 We honor them to the south where the warm winds of summer blow. They will be the flowers there.

We honor them to the west the direction where dreams, prayer and meditation begin. They will be dancing there.

We honor them to the north where winter and wisdom sing the northern lights into being, they will be singing there.

We honor them in the sky where the divinity of the universe swirls down upon us. They will be loving us there.

We honor them in mother earth who bares witness to all life from beginning to end. They will be smiling there.

We honor them in our hearts, they will be drumming there.

The wheel we constructed was about community. We focused on the whole rather than the parts. Despite our efforts to bundle up, the chill quickened our task. There was both levity and a solemn expression as each of us formed a personal relationship with this wheel. We activated it by leaving gifts for the spirits, and drumming. Before long, our wheel was complete. It will become part of a larger network of wheels that will be maintained throughout the year. We packed up, made it down the hill, back to our cars. Then it was on to our camping site near the La Ventana Arch, one of the most scared Apache sites in the San Luis Valley. Camping on such land was a timely transition. It made me aware of the sacred relationship with the earth because no matter how eclectic and personal a ceremony may be, it has always changed me just a little bit, made me a more open to different realities, a little more connected to the being(ness) of the land itself. For the Apache, they believed that celestial beings entered through open spaces in rock, called windows, like the one at La Ventana Arch. As I looked through the rock into piercing blue sky, tired from the day, I thought—flying humanoids. All things are possible.

~ Patricia L Meek

Thomas has a radio show on KRZA (88.7 Alamosa/Taos). Supernatural is on the third Saturday of each month from 8pm to 11pm. He plays great music and tells stories of strangeness form the valley. His next show is June 16th. You can stream it at